Child-Like Faith: My Favourite Easter Prayer

My favourite Easter prayer goes like this:

"Dear Jesus.  Thank you for going up on the cross for us every Good Friday.  You must be really happy when the weekend's over!"

That’s why I love kids’ prayers. Children remind us that we can be child-like, not childish, in the way we pray. Praying is easier for children, as there is no embarrassment, no formulas, no clichés, or no religiously correct God words…they just pray whatever comes to their minds. Children tell God what they are genuinely thinking and they understand that God is listening, and that praying is very important.

After all, Mark 10:15 says "Truly I tell you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God as a little child will never enter it." 

My hope is that we all become more child-like in our faith, and that we aren’t afraid to offer up simple, spontaneous prayers when needed.

That way, we won't always be the ones saying grace because we are the designated “church professionals!”

Clayton Imoo is husband to Gail and father to sons Sean Isaiah and Jacob Isaac and daughter Kayla Marie.  He has served as the Director of the Office of Youth and Young Adult Ministry of the Roman Catholic Archdiocese of Vancouver for the past ten years, helping parishes develop their own youth and young adult ministries.  When not doing ministry, Clay enjoys spending time with his family, playing music, playing sports, playing naptime, and writing blogs on topics such as family, faith, and the Vancouver Canucks.  Learn more about him at http://www.claytonimoo.com or follow him @claytonimoo      

Leading Up - Leaders are Listeners

"They were talking the loudest and not sitting around."

This was the (slightly paraphrased) response to the question I had posed to the large group of high school students. Our missions team had just completed an experiential learning exercise involving "islands" set up in our worship centre, 2x6 wooden planks, and loads of frustration. We were headed to two locations, yet wanted to emphasize that we are one team, two locations. The islands exercise had revealed a lot about the team dynamics but this particular statement struck me.

The question I had asked: who were the leaders, and how could you tell?

The response I heard perfectly fits the definition of a "leader" in the North American church--they're sharing what they think and they're on the move. They have the vision, the ideas, and the gumption to make some of those visionary ideas happen. And this is how Jesus led, right? After all, he would teach people often, authoritatively sharing his gospel of the kingdom and moving people to repentant action. He could draw the crowds without a Twitter account or a state-of-the-art building.

To be honest, this is how I often view my own leadership. I'm called to lead and shepherd those God has place in my life, meaning I'm supposed to...well...talk. The leaders are the loudest. While this is partially true, I wonder if it misses a central part of servant leadership that we see evident in Scripture.

Leaders are listeners. Yes, leaders communicate vision, share ideas, and are proactive and engaged in their world. Yet the strongest leaders I've encountered are leaders who humbly listen to others, who seek silence and solitude, who think before they act, who are curious as to what God is doing in any given moment. Leaders are learners, and learners must be able to listen well.

One aspect of our experiential learning exercise was placing limitations on certain individuals; some couldn't talk, others were blind-folded, still others were essentially mute and paralyzed. The supposed leaders in the group were the ones jumping onto islands, moving planks around, yelling orders to other team members. Yet without choosing to stop and listen first, they were inadvertently leaving others behind. The mute couldn't speak up. The blind couldn't see. They needed someone to take a moment and be present with them before moving ahead with the plan. 

When a leader leaves others behind, they are essentially leaving themselves behind. They'll find themselves alone, wondering why no one is following.

In this TED talk from American four-star general Stanley McChrystal, he talks about the need for leaders to be able to listen and learn, building shared purpose in a diversity of generations and demographics. In a rapidly changing world filled with new technology, new language, and new experiences, leaders have to be able to slow down and listen well. There are a ton of implications here for leaders in the church, and I'd encourage you to take 15 minutes to hear this military leader's wisdom.

"I came to believe that a leader isn't good because they're right. They're good because they're willing to learn and to trust."

It doesn't matter if your ideas are right if you haven't built the trust and relational equity to lead others. That requires listening, not for the sake of manipulation or waiting to get your own ideas heard, but because you humbly recognize that others are valuable, that they have a story to share. Henri Nouwen, a Catholic priest and gifted communicator, once wrote the following:

The Christian leader of the future is called to be completely irrelevant and to stand in this world with nothing to offer but his or her own vulnerable self. That is the way Jesus came to reveal God’s love.

If you're leading in the church, whether as paid staff, an elder on a board, a key volunteer, or simply as a parent or mentor, may you begin to listen both to those you are leading and to the Spirit who is leading you.

(A version of this post originally appeared here)

Joel Mayward is a pastor, writer, husband, and father living in Langley, British Columbia. He is the author of Leading Up: Finding Influence in the Church Beyond Role and Experience. Joel loves youth ministry, movies, the church, and theology, and he writes about all of it at his blog.