Wednesday 30 January 2013

Getting on the Same Page: Working with Your Pastor


Clay with his pastor Msgr. Luterbach
This past Saturday at our quarterly youth ministry training day, I co-presented a workshop with a good friend of mine Monsignor Gregory Smith.  The topic was working with your pastor.

After sharing some insights after going through four different youth ministry coordinators in the past 4 years, Msgr. Smith outlined five key things he learned during this time:
  1. Trust in the Holy Spirit to provide for our needs
  2. Use the networks you have
  3. Look beyond the diocese
  4. Build relationships quickly
  5. Empower people and use the power you have 
I followed up with two pieces of advice as well:
 

  1. Communication is key
  2. Clarify expectations
With respect to communication, good communication will help to build trust.  As a youth ministry coordinator, it’s vital that you keep your pastor in the loop. It could be via regular face-to-face meetings or periodic written reports.  The important thing is to make the effort even if you feel that it’s not being reciprocated.  Especially when it comes to evaluation: you simply can’t use the excuse of “well I didn’t know that’s what you wanted from me”.  That points to a communication failure; one that you could have avoided.

I firmly believe that having unclear expectations is the biggest source of conflict in ministry, at work, and in family life.  It’s important to clarify expectations regularly with your pastor so you know what he/she wants. After all, you don’t want to waste time and energy working on things that the pastor doesn’t deem important.  Sometimes it may require you to check your ego at the door or to agree to something that you’re not comfortable with.  Often you’ll need to recognize which of your own expectations you’ll need to let go of. After all, you must decrease so that He may increase.  

Clayton Imoo is husband to Gail and father to sons Sean Isaiah and Jacob Isaac and daughter Kayla Marie. He has served as the Director of the Office of Youth and Young Adult Ministry of the Roman Catholic Archdiocese of Vancouver for the past ten years. Learn more about him at http://www.claytonimoo.com or follow him @claytonimoo

Tuesday 29 January 2013

Final Destination

There are times where moments of awe and wonder hit you like a freight train. I’ve never actually been hit by a freight train but I can imagine the feeling. I had one of those moments while I was landing in Toronto.

The sun was setting in this beautiful array of colours, orange, red and purple as far as the horizon stretched. The magnificence of the creator was there, painting on the landscape. Over the PA system the flight attendant was giving final instructions for the landing. In the midst of her welcoming to us to Toronto she said something that I’ve heard many times before in my travels.

WestJest would like to welcome you to Toronto. If Toronto is home, welcome, if you are continuing further here are the gates for the following connections. Thank you for flying WestJet and we bid you farewell to wherever your final destination may be”

I’ve heard that last sentence dozens of times “Final Destination”. But for some reason it struck me funny recently. I've traveled a fair amount over the last few years. Congo, Turkey, Ireland, San Francisco, Germany. Which one of these would be final? Is home my final destination? My mind then wondered to eternity. It made me reflect on what is our final destination? In the end what purpose does this trip serve? Am I a follower of Christ simply as a matter of fire insurance? Or is there a great reason behind all of this?

What is your end game plan? What are you working towards? Are we simply put on this earth to collect toys, grow old and die? My belief system won’t let me do that. I’m now 31 years old, but yet I feel I’ve wasted so many years doing nothing.

God woke me up with a big slap on the back of my head. God has something planned for you.

But are you listening?


Monday 28 January 2013

4 WAYS TO INSPIRE YOUR LEADERSHIP TEAM


Part of my job as a pastor is to build ministry teams that are motivated, hopeful, and strategically pushing towards a clear and compelling picture of the future. These teams, made up of paid and unpaid staff, must be led by leaders who know how to encourage and lead their teams forward into an unknown and uncharted future. Any pursuit into the unknown will provide set-backs and discouragement that, depending on the key-leaders ability to rally the troops, could either stall all forward movement or inspire creative and compelling solutions.
Follows are four things I have learned about inspiring my teams to hope and purposeful action.

1. No BS.

People know when the ship is sinking, crap is in the fan, and when they’ve just swallowed a sugar coated razor-blade. There is no disguise that staff and volunteers will not see through eventually. Team leaders who try to divert their teams’ attention away from the cold hard realities are the leaders who end up losing credibility, build shallow solutions for deep problems, and who often end up discouraged and confused as to why the vision seems so unattainable.
Teams that operate in their prime are known for clarity of analysis and interpretation, courage to move forward against impossible odds, and who have a face like Clint Eastwood. Teams can only move forward if they know the reality of the situation they face; this means that part of the role of team leader is to strip away the peripheral and engage head-on with the task at hand. No flowers. No sugar. Cut the BS.

2. Never Waste a Crises.

There is nothing that will unite a group of people faster than a problem, crisis, emergency, or disaster. Some of the most powerful revolutions were born on the back of shared injustice, lack, or shortfall. People, bonded together through the memories of conflict and crises, innovate out of necessity – often from the ground up.
These are absolutely critical times that will determine the strength and creativity of our teams. While we do not manufacture crises, we shouldn’t be fearful of them either. For the healthy team it tests them, allows them to do necessary purges, and brings about a closeness that is not possible when times are quieter, softer, easier, and greener ($$$).
For years, one requirement of my leadership teams’ was to go on a roadtrip every six months with people they had just met in the last six months. Besides the community and relationships this built, it was fundamental in helping our team leaders use crises to look for creative solutions. Why? Every good road trip is bound to have a few wrong turns, a missed exit, a weirdo hitchhiker, a flat tire, or an empty tank of gas. Four people in a car, while learning to either love or hate each other, must put everything else aside to work towards crises resolution – most often resulting in strengthened relational bonds.

3. Ante Up.

As one pastor put it so eloquently, “Put your cup on, lower your head, and head back into the ring.” Volunteers and staff are more likely to face the challenges of adversary head-on when they go into battle side-by-side with their leader(s). Team leaders must respond to challenge by upping the ante themselves, calling people to action, and daring people to move with them. This often requires the blood, sweat, and tears of leaders in breaking ground and punching out new and exciting possibilities – even when all the odds are against them.
Staff and volunteers don’t mind taking a few shots and enduring a few hardships when they see that their leaders are out front bearing the assault as well. Leaders, ante up, and then challenge your people to put their money on the table as well.

4. See the Future.

Team leaders who inspire and motivate their team continually open windows into the future that are both compelling and achievable. Sometimes these windows are very small and are only open for a moment to help re-direct the team; other times the windows into the future are massive floor to ceiling portholes that provide a sweeping panoramic of a land far away and beautiful. Either way, these windows into the future will continue to drive staff and volunteers towards imaginative and strategic movement.
Seeing the future is about hope. It’s about the people and places we hope for and about clearly seeing what might be. Seeing the future is about community. It’s about where we expect to be and who we expect to be there with. It’s collaborative and felt by all, seen by all, and believed by all. There are times, however, where team leaders need to become the mouthpiece of “we” re-envisioning, re-imagining, and re-calibrating what exactly it is that the team sees. A clearly defined image of the future is often enough to ensure the continued hope, inspiration, and creativity of our teams.
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Finally, leading teams through set-back and failure is perhaps one of the more difficult leadership challenges that a team leader faces. In my own experience, these are the times I feel most vulnerable to feelings of inadequacy, thoughts of resentment towards team members, and thoughtless reactions to minor issues.
I am continually faced with the truth that not everything I do, the future that I see, and the current reality that I describe, are not always as I see them. Yet, I must continue. I must remember that God is at work and often in the most surprising of ways. I must remember that I am loved and cherished by the God whose image I am made. I must remember that my value as a person is not attached to my accomplishments, net-worth, or leadership skill set. Rather, my inherited worth is that I am undeservedly heir to the Kingdom of heaven, known as a child of God, and called and equipped to serve His community with humble faithfulness.
What have I missed? How do you inspire your teams?
-Jer
On Twitter @JeremyPostal, on the world wide web at www.jeremypostal.com, and in real life in big bad Whistler, BC. 

Saturday 26 January 2013

Dealing with Division? Help Students Tell Their Story


A friend of mine has started what I would call a Speakers Movement called Motivational Monday’s aka MoMonday’s. At each event there are four to 7 speakers who speak for 10 to 12 minutes. Each presenter tells their story, whatever part of their story they want to tell. From it you gain insight as they pass on the lessons they’ve learned. The vision for MoMonday's is to go global. Can you imagine Palestinians & Israeli’s sitting down together hearing each other’s stories gaining understanding respect, and honour for their fellow man. I love it!

I attended the event in Toronto and I heard from a small petite female who has an identical twin sister. This young adult picked up Roller Derby, she shared how it impacted her life and helped her find her own confidence outside her twin. Awesome story. Jonathan Wilson who lived in Papua New Guinea related the different spears tribes used to kill men with to conflict resolution. That speech was so deep that I took notes. It was invaluable!

This Got Me Thinking...
Telling personal stories is a great way to train your youth leaders and students in communicating their thoughts. In your youth group or community join the movement. Set up a mini MoMonday’s where you have leaders and students share their story and their journey.

GUIDELINES FOR HELPING STUDENTS & LEADERS TELL THEIR STORY
  1. Identify Specific Events In Your Life To Talk About. 10 minutes isn’t a lot of time to go through your whole life story, but share a part of it. I.e. Dad died, I was born with…, my first crush etc.
  2. Don’t Get Lost In The Details. “I picked up a pen or was it a marker? No it was marker.” “My brother, my sister, aunt Josee were there, I think uncle mark was there…yeah he was he was under the table!”  Stick to points that matter to your story.
  3. After Each Event In Your Story, Share What You Learned. What Was The Value In Going Through That Experience? What did you learn that you could share with your audience? “Though I felt that I was dealt the short hand of the stick, I learned that it’s not about the cards you get, but what you do with those cards that will determine the direction of your life.”
  4. Call To Action. Help The Listener/Audience Apply This Message To Their Lives.  From my story you can see bullying doesn’t only take place at school it can happen in the home or at work or on a sports team. Don’t keep it a secret, you deserve better get help, tell someone.”   

How valuable would this be to take place in your community, your youth group or school? Stories bring understanding that leads to unity and respect. If you are dealing with a lot of division in your youth group or school, train your kids to tell their story.

JOIN THE MOVEMENT
Check out a MoMonday's in your area. Calgary’s first MoMonday’s will be February 4th and I just got accepted to speak. You too can sign up. Check the site. Http://www.momondays.com to see where one is located near you or how to start one. Visit the Facebook page Motivational Mondays. It’s a great night out.

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A member of the Canadian Association of Professional Speakers (CAPS) Alison has dedicated her time to developing her gift of Public Speaking so that her listeners would believe the truth that she shares and to raise up other strong youth communicator’s in Canada. She has been speaking full time for four years and has recently graduated from Youth Speakers University. Currently residing in Calgary she is also the Founder of The Young Women of Power Conference and Movement. To have her speak at a function email her at admin@itgspeakers.com   
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Thursday 24 January 2013

Leading Up - Practice What You Preach


Leading from the middle sometimes leads to frustration about what's happening within the church as a whole. I recently had a conversation with an intern at my who attends a Bible college. He was venting about a conversation that had happened in one of his ministry classes, where particular students were making some fairly strong statements about finances and wealthy people. You can't be rich and be a part of the kingdom of God! We need to give up all our material possessions and live with the poor, like Jesus!

I had similar conversations years ago with a friend, who was lambasting our suburban church for its apparent greed and idolatry because members of the congregation owned nice cars. The irony of the situation was that he was living with his wealthy parents at the time in one of the nicer neighborhoods in the city. Wealth is evil, and this church doesn't care about eternal things! So he said from the comfort of suburban living.

A leader can use all the newest Christian buzzwords, have flawless theological arguments, and preach passionately about the vision of where we should be going. But if they aren't practicing what they preach--if they aren't willing to get into the trenches of everyday life and try to live this way for awhile--then their vision is just a clanging cymbal or a resounding gong.

I know this because I do it all the time. In the final conversation I had with the senior pastor of my last church, he gave me this exhortation: "Joel, you're a great communicator and a gifted leader. Now, go be a practitioner of the ideas you preach." The words have stuck with me. I've gotta practice what I preach.

What does it take to be a practitioner? Here are four ways to get the ball rolling:

-Practice the discipline of verbal self-control. Essentially, don't speak until you have something worth saying. A leader can criticize and argue and rant and whine, but have some life experience--even if it's limited and personal--to back up the words. Hold your tongue until your vision matches your practices.

-Be willing to make a sacrificial change. It's far easier to preach about missional living or authentic community or sacrificial giving when it didn't require missions, authenticity, or sacrifice. I have to change my calendar, my environment, and my priorities to match what I'm trying to say. If I'm telling students to share the Gospel more with their neighbors and friends...well...I need to take time during my week to invite my neighbors over for coffee and dessert. If I'm proclaiming that our church needs to get out and serve the homeless community, then I've got to consider canceling that dodgeball event and choose to take students downtown to serve in a rescue mission instead.

-Critique out of love. The reason that Old Testament prophets used fiery language and called for repentance wasn't out of anger or angst. It was motivated by love, a deep affection for God and His people. Any criticism or desire for change needs to stem from a down-in-my-soul love for the person, the ministry, and the church.

-Pray fervently. Is this unsettled feeling about the church from my own dissatisfaction, or is it a holy discontent from the Lord? Am I simply spouting my own opinions, or a Spirit-led vision about where our community needs to be headed? There is a big difference between being a protestor and a prophet. Protestors tend to lead from their own agenda and try to make their own voice heard; prophets are speaking the difficult-but-gracious truth of the Lord, making sure the Spirit's voice is heard.

Evaluate your own preaching--both sermons and conversations--and your own weekly practices. Do you practice what you preach?

Saturday 19 January 2013

Going Slow with Dr. Low

Some of the Spiritual Life Coaching conversations I have with people involve their dreams, not just their hopes and ideas but their actual dreams they have in their sleep.  Whether it's the daydreamy thoughts we think about during the day or the actual dreams we have at night, these dreams, themes and ideas often point to things stirring in our hearts and minds.

Most people today ignore these hopes and dreams which is odd and unfortunate considering God often spoke through dreams in the Bible and answered people's future hopes and aspirations.  I believe He also does this today but, like many of the ways God speaks to us, we often miss it, ignore it or simple don't take the time to listen.

Slowing down, stopping, listening and paying attention to your day dreams and night night dreams can help you identify some things you may be longing for and God may be inviting you towards.  But usually these things don't jump out and scream at us - we do have to focus and pay attention.  So that thing, feeling, idea, person or recurring theme you keep dreaming about - take some time to pray about it and ask God to show you what He may be leading towards or leading you away from.  You may be pleasantly surprised how He leads and how He provides.

Friday 18 January 2013

YouthWorker, Who Are You?

In the recent January/February 2013 YOUTHWORKER Journal the title caught my eye and almost compelled me to read it right away.

Who Am I? How youth workers can help kids develop a healthy identity.

After reading a few of the articles and thoughts written through out the journal by well respected professional youth workers, I was struck by a thought that has me completely perplexed.

How can youth workers help kids develop a healthy identity when youth workers themselves don't even know their own identity in Christ?
I work with multiple youth workers from numerous denominations here in Toronto and the GTA (greater toronto area). One of the top issues I hear from youth workers is their sense of being lost. Lostness brings doubt and insecurity to anyone but when you are leading a youth ministry and this lostness sets in you start to question everything and you begin to doubt who you are or even worse, you forget who you are.

Ephesians 2:13 But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near by the blood of Christ.
Do you feel lost? Has doubt or insecurity begun to consume your thoughts and the way you live? Maybe you need someone around you to remind you of who you are!

In the 1991 movie Hook, Peter, played by Robin Williams, has forgotten his true identity that he is really Peter Pan but all grown up.



Jeff Smyth is a youth worker who has been involved in both the local church and non-profit areas of Canada for more than 15 years. Jeff lives in Toronto with his wife Heather and son Nathan.
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Wednesday 16 January 2013

Spreading Their Wings

Today I blessed to spend time with two good friends who are leaving town within the next few days to continue on their respective life journeys.

For dinner we hosted the myth, the man, and the legend Jan Chan for dinner at our place.  The kids (along with Gail and I) had been looking forward to his visit all week and unsurprisingly there was no shortage of things to talk and laugh about.  Jan shared stories of his two years of teaching in different cities in England along with his excitement of going to Melbourne to work for the upcoming year.  We played a fun board game (in which Jan, Jacob, Sean and Gail all tied for first leaving me as the only one in last) and enjoyed yummy fudge bars for dessert before Sean and Jacob defeated Jan and me in a friendly game of soccer on the Xbox (see a pattern here?).  It was a great night of both reminiscing and looking ahead.

Earlier for lunch, the OYYAM staff was able to meet Jeremy Keong for some all-you-can-eat Japanese food downtown.  It was a great discussion as we learned about all of Jeremy’s experiences during his first term studying at the Pontifical John Paul II Institute (for Studies on Marriage and Family at the Catholic University of America) in Washington, DC.  We listened to stories of magnificent Sunday brunches, sharing chores, and racing to meet deadlines.  Despite Jeremy’s constant threats to take my job one day, it was wonderful to see that one of our former parish youth ministry coordinators (and archdiocesan stalwarts) was doing so well in an undoubtedly challenging yet fruitful program.

I’m super excited to see both Jan and Jeremy “spread their wings”.  I imagine that moving away to study and/or work can be extremely challenging and stressful.  I wouldn’t know as I admit I’m a bit of a mama’s boy (now wife’s boy I guess).  But here are both of these young men thriving at what they are doing.

I consider myself blessed to have had the opportunity to serve with both of them in youth ministry (Jan at both the parish and archdiocesan levels and Jeremy at the archdiocesan level) and I hope that I will get the chance to do so once again in the future.  I’m fortunate to call them my friends and I take great comfort in knowing that we will be praying for each other.

In the meantime, I will marvel as they spread their wings and make their leaps of faith.

Clayton Imoo is husband to Gail and father to sons Sean Isaiah and Jacob Isaac and daughter Kayla Marie. He has served as the Director of the Office of Youth and Young Adult Ministry of the Roman Catholic Archdiocese of Vancouver for the past ten years. Learn more about him at http://www.claytonimoo.com or follow him @claytonimoo