Saturday 30 June 2012

Public Speaking Tip #10 Motivated to Frustration: The Conclusion

“This year, let’s walk, talk and sing more like Jesus! Shine your light and you will be... A HISTORY MAKER!!!”

Your students are inspired and motivated, they want to change or do something with their faith. They leave your presence fired up looking for an opportunity to unleash their passion. They go back to school or their workplace ready to shine for Jesus but they have no clue what that looks like. A week goes by and they haven’t done anything. They hear you speak again and are motivated and inspired but inside there is this restlessness, a frustration as there has been no outlet for that passion. I call this Motivated to Frustration. The problem? A weak conclusion.

The main purpose of a conclusion is to Call People to Action. You’ve made your points now what do you want your audience to do?

Begin with the end in mind - Stephen Covey

In preparing my messages I used to leave my conclusion to the end normally running out of time in developing it to just wing it. I would then deliver a motivating message but have a weak or unclear call to action leaving me frustrated because I didn’t see the results I was looking for.

The call to action is key! If you don’t have one, what purpose does your message fulfills? Start developing your conclusion before the rest of your speech/message using it as a guide to filter your content to bring your hearers to the end result you desire.

In Andy Stanley’s book 7 Practices of Effective Ministry he talks about the importance of defining a win. In Baseball you know to celebrate when your team crosses home plate. In your conclusion help define a win for your students.

SIDE NOTE – You know those altar calls when people are asked to stand up or come to the front followed with an awkward silence? In that moment of uncertainty people are anxiously asking themselves, “What did he say?” “What does she want us to do?” “Is this a salvation call?” “Am I suppose to stand?” This is a Conclusion Problem!

STEP 1. WHAT DO YOU WANT YOUR STUDENTS TO DO? What action or attitude do you want to see take place.

EXAMPLE – To read their bible & allow it to change them.

STEP 2. WHAT DOES THAT LOOK LIKE? This step must be practical. What does it look like at school, in real life. Paint a clear picture for them, this takes the guess work out of it. If they can see it, they can then achieve it.

EXAMPLE – This week all I want you to do is to read Proverbs 23. Choose a verse that stands out to you each day from that same Proverb. Tweet it, Facebook it, or put it on an index Card – Advance level, put it into your own words.

STEP 3 DEFINE THE WIN. Do you know when to celebrate?

EXAMPLE – That scripture would inspire your thoughts. That you would have something of value to tweet about or post on facebook.

This week in preparing your lesson start with your conclusion. Identify what you want to see happen as an end result. Know your conclusion inside and out. Practice your Conclusion with others. Do they understand what you want them to do? If so...You are ready to motivate your students to action.

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A member of the Canadian Association of Professional Speakers (CAPS) Alison has dedicated her time to developing her gift of Public Speaking so that her listeners would believe the truth that she shares and to raise up other strong youth communicator’s in Canada. She has been speaking full time for four years and is currently enrolled in Youth Speakers University.

Speaking Tips are from Alison’s Public Speaking Enhancement Workshop for more inquires message her today. http://www.inspiringteengreatness.com

Friday 29 June 2012

Who's Your Step-Pastor?


My friend @willmington posted the following tweets on Twitter one day:
Who's your step-pastor?
Step-pastor = podcast/tv/blog pastor. He feeds you but does he lead you? He inspired you but does he shepherd you?
Not saying step-pastor is at fault. Just wondering if the new "spiritualists" run to step pastors to feel good, while escaping authority?
Do Internet campuses/services perpetuate a step-pastor syndrome?
Again not bashing pod/tv/Internet (especially if my pastor is reading :) But worth considering- beware being or only following a step pastor.
Other thoughts: In recent conversations I've heard very consistently, "Who's podcasts do you listen to?" or "When I was listening to so and so's podcast the other day." Rarely have I heard, "My Sr. Pastor said..."

Who are you following?

Thursday 28 June 2012

Exploring Blue Like Jazz


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When I read Blue Like Jazz years ago, it was an eye-opening experience. It felt like, in many ways, Don Miller had been able to see into my head and was writing about the same things I thought about. This recently-released curriculum looks like a great opportunity to engage the content of Blue Like Jazz. While I’ve not done this study myself, it looks like an affordable option for older teen & young adult study groups!


About the resource...

Exploring Blue Like Jazz Resource Guide and DVD-Based Study
Donald Miller and Dixon Kinser
Paperback • Thomas Nelson • 9781418549534 • 9781418549510

Explore the themes and questions raised in the major motion picture based on the best-selling book Blue Like Jazz by Donald Miller.

Youth workers, parents, and mentors need guidance in order to break through to youth during the critical transition to adulthood. Using the topics, themes, and questions addressed in Blue Like Jazz: The Movie as a means of starting the conversation, Donald Miller and Dixon Kinser offer an extremely frank look at sex, drugs, alternative lifestyles, and other situations youth face when moving from high school to the freedom of college or a work environment.

This very candid resource guide is the first of its kind, providing practical help for youth directors, mentors, and parents, though it is written in the language of today's youth with real world situations and interactions.

User guide features include:
  • Complete index of subjects addressed in the video, with useful statistics, conversation starters, and critical questions for youth to consider
  • A user-guide for youth workers
  • A plan for students and twenty-somethings to manage their new-found freedom
  • 5-week study for youth leaders to help groups work through these issues

The accompanying DVD-Based study features interviews with Donald Miller and clips from the movie along with a practical resource guide written in the language of today's youth, this interactive resource helps youth explore the consequences of their decisions without predetermined outcomes.

DVD features include:

  • 15 (3-4-minute) video pieces/topical discussion starters featuring interviews with Donald Miller, clips from Blue Like Jazz: The Movie, and behind-the-scenes footage from the making of the film
  • 5 (10-12-minute) extended video pieces for optional 5-week group curriculum
  • Resource Guide with complete index of subjects addressed in the video and beyond, practical help for youth directors, mentors, and parents, a 5-week curriculum option, and more



An excerpt...



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Born and raised on Vancouver Island, Ellen Graf-Martin now lives in the heart of Ontario’s Mennonite country with her husband Dan, where she continues to work in publishing and ministry.Learn more about her work at www.grafmartin.com

Wednesday 27 June 2012

Knowing Your Father


Father’s Day is always a bittersweet day for me, and this past one was no exception.  While I celebrate the blessing of my three kids, I also spend some time reflecting on my late father Larry who passed away on October 11, 2004 when he suffered a heart attack on the 17th fairway at Burnaby Mountain Golf Course.  Not a bad way to go out all things considered...at least he was doing something he loved! :p

It goes without saying that I love Dad very much and I miss him dearly.  Every day, I feel his imprint on me whether it’s how I parent, how I don’t take myself too seriously, or how I think I’m a decent athlete.

In a conversation I had with my dear friend Megan over dinner last night, I lamented that I wish that my daughter Kayla, born in December 2007, had a chance to meet my Dad.  As she is the first Imoo girl in 75 years, there’s no doubt that he would have doted over her and likely spoiled her.  My son Jacob, born in September 2003, was barely a year-old when Dad died so at least they got to spend some time together.  And my eldest Sean, born August 2001, was the lucky one as he spent quality time with Dad playing golf, hockey, and basketball among others.

Megan and I both volunteered for an event that evening that focused on getting fallen-away Catholics to return home to the Church.  It was an inspiring night of testimony, faith, and hope.  During the evening we heard countless stories of people returning to the faith and encountering God the Father, Jesus Christ, and the Holy Spirit. 

In my evening prayer, it struck me that it wasn’t by accident that Megan and I had our deep conversation earlier in the evening.  I realized that the sadness I have for Kayla never getting to know Dad is the same sadness I feel for someone who doesn’t get to know God the Father...albeit intentionally or by circumstance.

That’s our primary goal as youth ministry leaders:  to lead young people to an encounter with God the Father.  We may do good relational ministry.  We may have awesome small group discussions.  We may model cutting-edge social media initiatives.  We may make professional promo videos.  And we may perform the most memorable skits and play the craziest games.

But all of these are for naught if we end up pointing young people to ourselves instead of to God.  It’s not about us; it’s about God.  Yet we sometimes forget this. 

It’s heart-breaking for a young person to come to your youth ministry events regularly yet not know who God is.  Not know all the great and mighty things God has done for him.  Not know how much God loves him.

Thus, let us all renew our commitment to enable young people to get to know and love God.

Before it’s too late.


Clayton Imoo is husband to Gail and father to sons Sean Isaiah and Jacob Isaac and daughter Kayla Marie.  He has served as the Director of the Office of Youth and Young Adult Ministry of the Roman Catholic Archdiocese of Vancouver for the past ten years, helping parishes develop their own youth and young adult ministries.  When not doing ministry, Clay enjoys spending time with his family, playing music, playing sports, playing naptime, and writing blogs on topics such as family, faith, and the Vancouver Canucks.  Learn more about him at http://www.claytonimoo.com or follow him @claytonimoo

Tuesday 26 June 2012

When was the last time you were bothered?


Three weeks ago one of my favourite author's passed away.  His name was Ray Bradbury and he was a well-known author mainly for his work in "The Martian Chronicles" and "Fahrenheit 451".  In Fahrenheit 451 he wrote the following 

"We need not to be let alone.  We need to be really bothered once in a while.  How long is it since you were really bothered? About something important, about something real?"  







You know that feeling where you are woken up suddenly, especially from a long deep sleep.  The moment I read that quote it was like God woke up me from a deep slumber that I had been in and it has been burned into my memory ever since.  So often we get bothered with things that are not important, about things that at the end of the day don’t matter.  Matthew 22:39 says "and the second is like it:'Love your neighbour as yourself." I also recognize the difficulty some people have with this passage as they struggle with loving themselves(but that is an entirely different post).

 What does loving your neighbour look like? 

You may disagree with me, but I think that loving our neighbour ties right back into what Ray was trying to say in his Science Fiction book.  It is about being bothered about something important.  It is about being bothered about something real.  Are you bothered by the person on the street who is asking for a few dollars to make it through the day? Are you bothered that there is drought like never before seen in history in the horn of Africa?  Are you bothered by the fact that right now there are more slaves than in any other time in human history? Or are you bothered because you can’t afford a bigger TV? Or was the last time you were bothered because you didn’t get along with a coworker? Or maybe you last cared about arguing with your spouse about the colour of a wall in your house?  God has called us to open our arms as wide as we can and love the world. 

John 13:35 – By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another


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Ryan Filsinger is a husband, father, hockey lover, video game producer and aspiring social architect.  He has been in part time youth ministry for the last 6 years in Charlottetown, PEI.  You can find him on twitter @rfilsinger or read his rarely updated blog at www.filsinger.org


Sunday 24 June 2012

Spiritual Practice of the Week:

walk.
breathe.
notice.
silently bless the living things you pass.
notice your heart open.
breathe.
walk.
© This prayer practice and all of those on the Sunday Morning Blog Post can be found in:  "Go Deep: Spiritual Practices for Youth Ministry" Wood Lake PublishingDoris is the Youth Director for the United Church of Canada in BC as well as a pilgrim who travels with groups through World Pilgrim Global Education and Awareness Travel.

Saturday 23 June 2012

Going Slow with Dr. Low

This week I met with one of the most godly women I know.  She is in her 70s and has been serving God faithfully since she became a Christian in her 20s.  For as long as I've known her she has been the pillar of Christian joy and strength for all her friends and family.  But the last few weeks, for the first time since I've known her, she's been feeling a little depressed.

After praying about it for a while she thinks she is sad about a severe loss that happened over 50 years ago.  Why in the world is something from 50 years ago popping up in her 70s when she is such a wise, strong, godly woman?  Because she did not take time to fully grieve the loss in her 20s; she was too busy caring for her husband, her children and being a strong example for all her friends.

Part of grieving is a natural process we do not have to make happen but part of grief involves choice and intentionality.  We can let grief happen or we can suppress it or we can even embellish/wallow in it.  To grieve healthily and wholly is a choice and takes time - we cannot just hurry by it or race through it even though the world expects us to get on with life more quickly than we may be ready.

So this is yet another area where I am a real advocate of slowing down.  If there is a loss in your life, big or small, good or bad, take some time to grieve it, celebrate it, cry over it, laugh at it, yell at it or whatever you need to do to help you journey through it wholly and healthily.  Invite God into this process - do it consiously in His presence - and it will enrich your faith in a much deeper way than just racing through it and trying to be strong.

Is there a loss you're experiencing in your life right now you need to take time to grieve (or perhaps a loss from the last few years you skipped over a little too quickly)?

May God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ give you his grace and peace. All praise to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. He is the source of every mercy and the God who comforts us. He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When others are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us. You can be sure that the more we suffer for Christ, the more God will shower us with his comfort through Christ. So when we are weighed down with troubles, it is for your benefit and salvation! For when God comforts us, it is so that we, in turn, can be an encouragement to you. Then you can patiently endure the same things we suffer. We are confident that as you share in suffering, you will also share God's comfort.  ~ 2 Corinthians 1:2 - 7


Friday 22 June 2012

This Weeks Must Reads....



Top 5 Internet Accountability/Filter Software. Biggest surprise FAIL: one mobile device has no accountability/filter solutions offered.

8 Tips for Designing Events that Transform Students Lives.  Guiding principles and good reminders of event basics.

How I changed my Mind. Marko shares how he had a soul detox.

The Tale of Three Kings. Gene Edwards gives a great look on leading from the second chair and know when to step aside through the life of David.



Jeff Smyth is a veteran canadian youth worker who has been involved in both the local church and non-profit areas of Canada. He is a partner with DOXA Toronto, providing resources, training and coaching for local churches. Jeff lives in Toronto with his wife Heather and son Nathan. Jeff's blog ThinkYouthMinistry.com

Thursday 21 June 2012

Love Does


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Reading through Donald Miller’s books over the years, I’ve been intrigued by his ‘friend Bob’. “Love Does” gave me a glimpse into the life of this extraordinary man – and now I understand why he has been such an important part of Don’s life. If you, like me, are sometimes tempted to take life and yourself too seriously, hopefully you’ll find this call to whimsy and a much more adventurous life inspirational as well. 

About the resource...
Love Does
Bob Goff
Paperback • Thomas Nelson • 9781400203758


As a college student he spent 16 days in the Pacific Ocean with five guys and a crate of canned meat. As a father he took his kids on a world tour to eat ice cream with heads of state. He made friends in Uganda, and they liked him so much he became the Ugandan consul. He pursued his wife for three years before she agreed to date him. His grades weren't good enough to get into law school, so he sat on a bench outside the Dean’s office for seven days until they finally let him enroll.

Bob Goff has become something of a legend, and his friends consider him the world's best-kept secret. Those same friends have long insisted he write a book. What follows are paradigm shifts, musings, and stories from one of the world’s most delightfully engaging and winsome people. What fuels his impact? Love. But it's not the kind of love that stops at thoughts and feelings. Bob's love takes action. Bob believes Love Does.

When Love Does, life gets interesting. Each day turns into a hilarious, whimsical, meaningful chance that makes faith simple and real. Each chapter is a story that forms a book, a life. And this is one life you don't want to miss.

Light and fun, unique and profound, the lessons drawn from Bob's life and attitude just might inspire you to be secretly incredible, too.


An excerpt... 









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Born and raised on Vancouver Island, Ellen Graf-Martin now lives in the heart of Ontario’s Mennonite country with her husband Dan, where she continues to work in publishing and ministry.Learn more about her work at www.grafmartin.com

Tuesday 19 June 2012

Don't forget the little ones


One of my major mistakes in Youth Ministry was forgetting the little ones.  For the most part a majority of my time was spent with kids aged 12-18+.  It was my “job” title as a Youth Director to spend time with “Youth”.  In my head that meant that I didn’t see the kids until they were 12 and sometimes older depending on the circumstances.   This created a disparity between the kids who were coming up and the ones that I had already established relationships with.

At our church we have a strong children’s ministry that can see upwards of 50 kids on a Sunday morning.  Not once in 6 years did I darken the door of the kids main ministry center and left getting to know them to when they finally made the trek “upstairs” on a Friday night.   If I were to go back and do it again I would make sure to integrate myself more into the kids’ lives at a younger age.  I don’t think it was something that needed to occur on a weekly basis, but getting to know the kids at younger age would have taken things much farther much quicker.

Youth ministry is all about relationship, and relationship takes a lot of work.  By spending a small amount of time with kids who are going to be in your ministry in a year or two, I believe you can accelerate the relationship building which will then allow you to speak into their lives at a much younger age.  Don’t make the same mistake I did and forget the younger ones. 

A couple quick tips:

  1. Talk to the Parents – I’ve already wrote an entire blog on this, but talk to the parents of the kid who is coming up to youth in the next couple years.  See where they are at, and how they are dealing with a soon to be teenager.  
  2. Spend Time with the Kids – Take a few moments every couple months to just talk with the kids who are in that 10 to 11 age bracket.  They’ll probably surprise you with how they see the world.
  3. Work on integration – Growing into adolescence is a hard enough time for a kid without the added pressure of moving into a new group of people.  Make sure you spend some time researching and preparing the transition period for youngest of your group.

Integrating new kids into your ministry can be a difficult process for some.  If you have a healthy kid’s ministry behind you, it is something that will happen every year.  Make sure you develop a plan to work with whoever is charge of the kids and do what you can to help ease the transition between the two different environments.